As special needs caregivers, we are no strangers to giving. We dedicate our time, our energy, and our hearts to those who rely on us. From the quiet moments of support to the loud, sometimes chaotic times of tending to physical and emotional needs, we constantly pour ourselves into others. It’s an act of profound love, and for many, it is the foundation of everything we do as a parent of a special needs child.

But in the midst of all this care and giving, how often do we take a step back and consider the love we need to feel for ourselves? It’s so easy ignore our own personal humanity in a world that constantly sends a message that we are not good enough or demands more of us.

The question becomes: Are we acknowledging that we, too, are deserving of the very love and attention we give so freely to others?

Love is the Strongest Foundation

It may sound simple, but understanding that everything we are, everything we do, is rooted in love can change our entire outlook on life. From the moment we were born, we were born into love—this also expands to our love for our special needs child no matter how imperfect the world sees them.

Love is the ultimate source of our strength. It fuels our compassion, our resilience, and our capacity to give. But it is also what sustains us, what helps us to keep going when the days feel long and our energy feels spent. Especially now in the face of uncertainty and global stress.

As caregivers, we often focus so much on the needs of the individuals we care for that we forget the vital importance of caring for ourselves. We put our needs on the back burner, telling ourselves that there will be time for self-care later. But the truth is, if we do not nourish ourselves—physically, mentally, and emotionally—we will eventually run out of the very love we are trying to give.

It is essential to remember that self-love is not selfish. It is an act of self-preservation. Without it, we risk burning out, feeling disconnected, and losing our sense of purpose. If we value ourselves as human beings—not just as caregivers—we can begin to tap into a deeper well of love.

Valuing Yourself: A Path to Inner Well-being

One way to begin practicing self-love is by acknowledging your worth. Recognize that everything you do is a result of the love that you were born into—whether it’s tending to your loved ones' physical needs or providing them with emotional support. All of these actions are reflections of who you are: a compassionate, loving, and deeply empathetic person.

But love isn’t just about what you do for others; it’s also about how you treat yourself. You deserve moments of rest, moments of peace, and moments where you prioritize your own well-being. Sometimes, this might look like taking a walk outside, meeting up with a friend, attending a spiritual practice such as group meditation, going to a movie, or scheduling a coaching session. Whatever it is, make space for it. You are worth it!

Best in Health and Love,

Damita Radtke, AADP-HWC